- You are truly in love with the other person and you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If there's such a thing...
- You get married and you have this one person (best friend for life) to care about you and vise versa. Can go hand in hand with the first reason.
- Lineage - The boy/girl comes from a really good family and that's the kind of family you want to be a part of. There is a feeling of comfort when you know that you are going to benefit from the marriage. Marriage like a lot of other things is all about give and take. If you can take care of your spouse and the parents can help out with the mortgage etc., and you are perfectly happy, you can't ask for more right?
- Everybody else that you know is getting married and you get lonely and decide to get married as well. In other words, marriage is the institution that you end up getting sucked into.
- You find out that your girlfriend is knocked-up and marriage is the cover-up.
- You get married because it is about time to get married. You don't want to get all excited about Bingo, Denny's, Slot Machines, Christmas shopping in May, AARP discounts etc. when your kid is in grade school.
Even though I seem to have answers to most of my questions, the only thing I can contemplate at this juncture is a relationship. I guess it is the fear of commitment. I remember not having a cell-phone for quite some time when everybody else did just cos of the contract (lame huh?). That's just a part of the problem. The other reason is because of conflict of interest. My mother wants me to get married to someone from the same background (which translates to... she wants to pre-approve) and me on the other hand would really like to get to know the person, live with them for some time before I get down on one knee. That's a problem because getting to know the person from her perspective is a couple of phone calls, chat on the internet, exchange emails etc. Living together translates to SIN! (ain't happening). I am willing to try and convince my mother if I found my other half but before that I need to be convinced enough that she's worth the convincing. Dyamn! that sounds complicated but it is really not.
Let's change gears here and let me ask you a question... Do you think you are ready for Marriage? If you are a girl, you are born ready... so shut up :). The question was meant for the single guys. And for those of you who are married, do you think you've gotten complacent after getting married? Has the drive to be in shape lost it's precedence? I have to quote my friend Ganesh on the matter... "Man! Bitches want you to have six packs but they don't want you to spend all that time playing sports... what's up with that?"
Let's say that you got married and then what? 2-3 years down the line you get heat for not having kids yet. Umm... I don't want to change diapers, wake up in the middle of the night to sing a lullaby that I don't know. Maybe I am missing the big picture here? Let's take life as a cycle of weeks per se, I work during the day for the most part, play sports in the evenings, cook, hang out with friends, play some more sports over the weekends, relax, watch some tv etc. I don't really see the need for any change. I am perfectly happy with the way things are. Why would I want to complicate things beyond that? I am the boss of me. :) Isn't that the big picture? Does this mean that I am selfish but who's not? If the whole point of family is to foster a feeling of "completeness" and save you from loneliness... I will pass for now. I have my friends and my hobbies to keep me occupied.
I am getting a little teird of myself and poor you.. you've made it this far. Congratulations! I feel like I am ending abruptly but it has to be that way this time. So, for now, I get to keep the right and the left side of the bed. Stay single!
-Kal
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